Things About Our Generation That Are Hard to Understand

This post might come across as controversial to some, or perhaps as if I’m taking things too personally or out of context, but bear with me—this is just for fun. Maybe I have a unique, albeit odd, perspective that sets me apart from others. I’m naturally curious, always with a mind full of questions about my outlook on life.

When a new relationship is based on an upgrade or downgrade from an ex

If an ex ‘downgrades,’ they’re often seen as choosing an easier option. But if an ex ‘upgrades,’ it’s assumed they’re focused more on looks than on a real connection. It’s confusing—people can’t seem to make up their minds. The first thing many focus on is appearance, rather than personality. While looks are subjective and fleeting, it’s hard not to notice them. This shows how easy it is to judge others based on their appearance, whether they’re attractive or not. Ultimately, as long as they’re happy with their choices, we should let them be, especially if we don’t know their new partner personally.

Likes that don’t match up the amount of followers you have on social media

Imagine having over 200 people viewing your story, but only a handful of them actually engage with it. What’s the point of following me—just to watch and criticize? I’m not saying that likes or followers define your worth, but it’s hard to ignore the reality that there are more people watching from the sidelines than supporting you. Many people may not actually like you, but they love to observe your every move. I refer to these people as ‘monitoring spirits.’ It’s moments like this where I sometimes wish technology didn’t exist, because it’s made it harder to form genuine, meaningful connections.

People that get into a new relationship so fast and “fall in love” more quickly

Are you truly seeking connection, or is it more about loneliness and convenience? How do you find someone who feels the same way? Every time I’m emotionally invested in someone, it’s rarely reciprocated. Yet, when someone shows interest in me, I don’t feel the same, and the cycle keeps repeating. I understand that people fear being alone sometimes, but do you really need someone else’s love to be happy? While being alone might feel boring or scary, it can actually bring peace, with fewer heartaches to deal with, rather than ending up unhappy in the long run.

People who manage to have a solid group of friends that stay with each other

Every time I find a friend group, it somehow always falls apart. I could almost bet that most friend groups don’t even like each other! Maybe I’m just an introvert that likes to be alone, but I’ve noticed that all of my friends are separate, which makes it better in my opinion. Sometimes we’re not meant to have a friend group and that’s okay, because quality over quantity matters more.

Prioritizing popularity over genuine connections

What do you really gain from this? Just because you think it’s cool to be mean or indifferent to others doesn’t make you the main character. Maybe in your world, but not in mine. Are you really going to choose popularity over genuine friendships? Be for real. Having more money, friends, or material things doesn’t make you better than anyone else. What do you bring to the table beyond just popularity?

Parents that still complain about everything you do even if you already achieved a certain level of success

At least be grateful that I’m not out here making destructive choices, like popping pills, doing drugs, partying every weekend, causing fights, getting pregnant, sleeping around, being involved in illegal activities, or going to jail. Why should they expect you to owe them anything if they don’t appreciate your accomplishments? I’m still early in my life journey, learning and growing every day. I understand that our parents brought us into this world and want what’s best for us, but sometimes it can become toxic if there are too many misunderstandings.

Being put on this earth

I’ve been reflecting on life, and I realize this might sound insensitive or ungrateful to some, but it’s something I’ve been thinking about. I know that life is a blessing, but sometimes I wonder about the reality of being here in the first place. None of us asked to be born, and if I had known some of the struggles I’d face, I might have felt differently about coming into this world. It’s difficult to imagine the idea of being destined for something like hell, especially when we didn’t have any control over our existence. At times, it feels like it might have been easier to not exist at all. I understand that the world needs balance between good and evil, but sometimes I question why I’m part of it all.

Following so called fashion trends

Marketing plays a crucial role in advertising products to the audience, but sometimes it can turn followers into trend-chasers rather than leaders. Take Crocs, for example. They were once considered ugly, but now many view them as trendy and fashionable. I know for a fact that most of these people didn’t like Crocs back then, and honestly, I still think they’re unattractive. I may get some hate for saying this, but it’s the truth. A lot of people only start wearing them because everyone else is. You don’t have to follow trends; just be yourself and wear what makes you feel comfortable. I’d be lying if I said I never tried to follow trends, but in the end, I usually stick with what feels most authentic to me.

Weebs and K-pop stans’ cultural shift

As much as I’m excited to see Asian culture gaining more appreciation than in the past, it’s important for non-Asian fans of K-pop and anime to recognize that Asian cultures are much more diverse than just Korean, Japanese, and Chinese. Asian cultures go far beyond these three, and it’s essential to acknowledge the variety within them. In the past, Asians were often mocked for our entertainment, music, and food. Now, many people are obsessed with K-pop, Korean cuisine, and anime.

Taking a break in a relationship

Depending on the situation, it can be healthy for both partners to take a step back from the relationship. However, sometimes a partner may betray your trust by exploring other options. In other cases, they might feel overwhelmed or burnt out and want to take time to “work” on themselves and their feelings. But if you’re truly emotionally exhausted or unhappy, it might be better to just break up instead of leaving your partner wondering and questioning their worth. Taking time away just to end things later seems pointless. If you’re not willing to work through the issues together, then what’s the point of taking a break? It often feels like an excuse to avoid facing problems. While taking a break might work for some couples, I know it’s not for me. Goodbye.